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    How To Use a Fleshlight

    OK, you’ve gotten your Fleshlight and you’re already to give it a whirl. Lets go over some pointers to make your experience more enjoyable.

    First things first, the Fleshlight will ship with a cardboard tube inside of the canal. You need to remove this as it could be quite painful if you slip into it expecting soft goodness and hitting this hard piece of cardboard instead.

    The next thing I do is optional, but highly recommended. You need to heat up your Fleshlight. I have found the best method to heat up my Fleshlight is to fill up the bathroom sink with piping hot water, I then submerge the Fleshlight in the water. The Fleshlight floats so in order to keep it under the water I wedge a cup between the Fleshlight and the faucet. This keeps the Fleshlight fully submerged allowing it to heat evenly. I also fill the cup with hot water and put my lube in it, which heats it quite nicely. Here is a picture of how it looks in my sink during the heating process.

    heating a fleshlight

    This probably should be able to go without saying but just in case, remove your insert from the case before heating.

    I usually let this sit for at least ten minutes. Sometimes, if I am feeling really randy I will take it out after ten minutes and start using it. Usually though, I will change the water after ten minutes and put in a fresh batch of piping hot water and let it sit for another ten minutes. This makes the Fleshlight nice and warm and the heat is thoroughly saturated into it, meaning it will retain the heat for a nice long time. The very first time I used my first Fleshlight I only put it in the sink for about five minutes and quickly started using it. It wasn’t exactly entirely pleasurable as it wasn’t nearly warm enough. The next time I used it I used the above heating method and it made a HUGE difference, I was blown away by how much better it was.

    Whatever you do, do NOT put your Fleshlight in the microwave or into boiling water, you will most likely destroy your Fleshlight.

    After it’s all heated up you just need to lube yourself and your Fleshlight up and you are good to go. Make sure you use a water based lubricant.

    There is one thing that you should know about your Fleshlight before you start using it. The bottom end cap of your Fleshlight screws off. By adjusting the tightness of this cap you can adjust the amount of suction that the Fleshlight produces as you slide in and out. With the cap tightened down all the way you produce the most suction and with the cap all the way off, little to no suction. This is crucial to your enjoyment and you will have to experiment to find what suits you best. I personally have found that on the STU and Speed Bump I like lots of suction. With the Wonder Wave and the Super Ribbed I find the less suction the better and with the smooth inserts (Original and the Super Tight) I like something about in the middle. Experimentation is key here to finding what you like best.

    There are several different methods to actually using your Fleshlight.

    You can do it the manual way, just like normal masturbation where you hold the Fleshlight in your hand and masturbate that way. This way is quite enjoyable and definitely gets the job done but I prefer a different method.

    What I like to do is this. I put a nice thick pillow down on my bed. I then lay a towel down over the pillow with about six inches of towel overhanging the pillow. I then put the Fleshlight on top of the towel and then fold the towel back over the Fleshlight. I then place another pillow on top of this and then fold the towel back up over the top pillow. It’s a bit hard to describe so take a look a the diagram below.

    Fleshlight pillow method

    I find this thoroughly enjoyable, I much prefer having my hands free and I feel it is a much better simulation of actual sex. It does feel a bit silly the first couple times but the pleasure level is so high you quickly forget that.

    Another very popular method is to use a shoe. What you do is you place the shoe on a flat surface and then slide the Fleshlight, narrow end first, into the shoe. You then go to town and enjoy yourself, this is a very popular method and it works fantastic. I just prefer the pillow method.

    Other popular methods are to sandwich the Fleshlight between your mattress and box spring or between two cushions on your couch. I am sure there are tons of other methods that people have come up with, experiment and have fun finding what you like best.

    You can also experiment using your Fleshlight without the case, some people love doing this and you can make any of the inserts incredibly tight this way if you so choose. I personally prefer keeping the Fleshlight in the case.

    After you are all done it’s time to clean up. I find the best way to clean the Fleshlight is to just run warm water through it until any of your deposits are removed. I usually run water through the canal for at least a minute or two in each direction. Do NOT use any soap as you could damage your Fleshlight. If you want to do a deeper cleaning than just plain water you can use a little isopropyl alcohol. After you are done washing your Fleshlight you need to make sure you dry it out. To dry, first shake out as much water as possible and then place the Fleshlight in a well ventilated place. I find that placing them in front of a fan works quite well. A quicker and much easier method is to use a handkerchief or bandana or some other type of small thin cloth or towel and slide it through your Fleshlight insert, continue sliding it through until your cloth comes out dry. When you store your Fleshlight either keep it out of the case or keep the caps on the case off/loose so that air can circulate through the insert.

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